I wrote this before things in my world changed…I’m posting this because it was true at the time…and large parts still are
I have always been told to be as honest with people as you can be, but you should never tell the whole truth and nothing but the truth. Unless you are in front of a judge.
The truth is not always as sweet and innocent as it sounds. If you are ever arrested, a police officer will read you your rights. Any smart person knows during this time and thereafter you say nothing, unless you are answering a question.
This is true with people. However you or I may feel about someone, can be verbalised. Though only under extreme circumstances. If you can avoid it please do. Telling the truth in these situations can cause irreparable fractures. Once these fractures appears the deterioration into a broken workplace, friendship or relationship is the equivalent of straying to close to a black hole. You may escape but once you have looked into the abyss, that’s it.
I am by no meanings telling you to fake your way through life or become an Oscar winning performer. Be smart, weight up the situation, does it really need an acid tongue or a cool head. Think about the repercussions of your actions. You may need that persons help one day, so throwing lighter fuel over a bridge and casually throwing a match may not be the most productive thing to do.
Depending on the variety of situations that may lead to the potential to ‘give someone a piece of your mind’, how many of those end well. You may be saying what everyone is thinking but matter what this person has done, you will come of the bad guy.
When it comes to loved ones more tact and resilience is required.
Just remember, how you feel about someone may be how someone else feels about you.
This isn’t about getting one over on someone, winning or putting someone in their place. Essentially it’s about how you want to live your life. Occasionally being honest is fine, but do it too often and the tables will turn.
If the situation ever arises though. Remember be smart, say what needs to be said and no more. Take personal feelings out it. Don’t be too cold. You are talking to someone with feelings after all. Some things can be left unsaid. Making it clear that you have restrained yourself is important. Never be smug.
Humans as a species are social creatures. If someone unbalances the equation in our lives, we will address this. It’s been done before, sacrifice one to save many.